How do you identify what’s wrong? Then, how do you fix it?
Symptom-solving seems to be a short attention span go-to. Or, to be a bit kinder and more honest it’s all most of us have time to do. During yoga practice, I’ve learned to hang out with discomfort. I’ve practiced going back into poses where my body knows discomfort resides to face it, keep it company, and wish it well as strength takes up the place it used to call home.
Problem-solving requires patience. It takes digging down to the root of the issue, understanding it, and then bidding it farewell once its lesson has been learned.
Are there issues in your life that you have been just symptom-solving?
For me, it’s money.
When it comes to money, I have been a constant and persistent symptom-solver. In many ways, I’m not comfortable with money. Do I enjoy what money provides? Yes, very much so. Is feeling secure a good thing? No arguments from me.
What’s the problem then? I sure wish I knew. As I sit here writing, I am trying to sort it out.
- Am I waiting for my ship to come in like the Dad in ‘Da? I loved the production of it that I saw at the Guthrie many years ago.
- Is it because my mom and I were poor when I was a kid (before I was 4)?
- Do I have it in my head somewhere that I don’t deserve it?
- I don’t think it’s the artist thing. Y’know the whole neurotic trap that some creatives fall into – my creative brilliance only goes so far.
I don’t know what the problem is.
I should share that I lead a comfortable life. Pondering the problem for me is really about how to make my own business profitable and being okay with it. Whenever I’ve set out to work for myself, I’ve run into a money problem. Whether it’s clients not paying a defined amount within an agreed upon timeframe, or going for the sale, like really closing it – I struggle.
When I was younger, I solved the money problem by waitressing, bartending, and taking similar jobs. Now, I have this business I want to build: 40 Fit N’ Stylish. If I don’t make it profitable, what’s the point of all the work?
I think it’s time for me to dig into my money problem and sit with it for as long as it takes to not need it around anymore.
This post is part of a series inspired by Eat Pray Love.