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Doing Nothing | Journal Entry 21 of 108

May 4, 2018 Comments Off on Doing Nothing | Journal Entry 21 of 108

“Nothing? Nothing will come of nothing.”

I have said those words more times than anybody on the receiving end has ever cared to here. Usually it’s said with a smile in the direction of a teen or young adult. It’s from Shakespeare’s King Lear. “Nothing will come of nothing: speak again,” Lear says to his daughter Cordelia. He wants her to express her love for him in greater terms than she has managed.

When I took acting classes at the Guthrie, I put together a monologue from the scene between Cordelia and King Lear. I was 18 and admired Cordelia’s honorable defiance. I looked up to her, because it mattered more to her to speak truth than it did to have a slice of her family’s fortune.

No instance so dramatic has prompted me to say those words. Instead, it’s conversations like…

“What do you plan to do today?”


“Nothing? Nothing will come of nothing.”

It’s true. And false.

I have not fully developed my art of doing nothing muscles. For years, I bartended and waitressed (often in addition to a day job) while others were at home relaxing or out having fun with family and friends. When I was a teen, I’d rather be performing or working backstage at a local theater, than hanging out.

Don’t get me wrong, I’d go out and have a good time, go to the lake and enjoy a day on the boat and some drinks, etc. Full weekends spent weekending-it is new-ish.

It’s true. Nothing productive will come from opting to not be productive. There will be no accomplishments as I spend time enjoying life’s simple pleasures.

It’s false that nothing comes from doing nothing more than enjoying life. There’s that whole enjoying part that’s pretty nice. Also, there is that deepening of shared experiences with people who matter to me. Nothing may be accomplished and that is one hundred percent a.o.k. with this woman.

In the past, I would have had a lot of nervous energy about the idea of really relaxing during the weekend. There are times that I feel a bit of angst about it. Sometimes, I wish there could be two of me. One to clean house and cook while I write. Another to write while I go out and have fun or drink a glass of wine and binge on Netflix without chilling. No chilling.  I’m too old for that! Ha! Ever have a moment when you’re not sure if you’re properly speaking youth-slang?

I’ll let you in on this in case you were as not in the know as I was on this until yesterday. Netflix and Chill today is what Booty Call was when I was 18.  Now you know. You’re welcome.

Will I do some work this weekend? Yes. Though it will mostly be work I find pleasure in, writing. Work doesn’t get to be the priority this weekend. It’s going to have to take a back seat to pleasure, because this weekend I’m going to The Tap House 6th Annual Beer Street Social with my guy to spend time with family and friends, Rose All Day at Dwell Local with a dear friend I haven’t seen in forever, and Reads Landing Brewing Company with my guy and another couple. There will be the SpartaChris and Ballet Fit too.

What are you doing this weekend? Are you good at the art of doing nothing? I’ll take tips and advice! Please email me at melissa@40fitnstylish.com.

This post is part of a series inspired by Eat Pray Love.