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Making Better Decisions

· Talking Myself Into The Best Choices ·

July 18, 2018 Comments Off on Making Better Decisions

Two good options are the most challenging ones to make a decision about. It feels like I’ve had an abundance of good options to choose from during the past few years. What am I supposed to do with my day? With my life? I really need to be a better consultant to myself. Lucky for me, I came across The Self-Symposium Ritual in Shel Pink’s book, Slow Beauty¬†(https://amzn.to/2mpBnOW).

The Self-Symposium Ritual

Pink suggests two approaches to The Self-Symposium Ritual in her book: “Why? So?” and “The Question.” I tried the “Why? So?” approach. “Start with a statement like ‘I hate my job’ and then continue down the page asking and responding to the questions ‘Why?’ and ‘So?’,” Pink writes.

My Statement: I’m uncertain about continuing my blog.

Why?

With the limited amount of time I have to create, I might be better served and may better serve others by writing work of greater depth.

So?

I could use the time to write fiction and essays.

Why?

I’m not sure. I find myself wanting to be less encumbered by social media. It’s more fun to be present in my life. I find myself asking if at the end of my time on earth I’ll regret the Facebook and Instagram posts I didn’t do. The answer is always a resounding NO!!! It’s an emphatic, underlined for emphasis NO!!! Exclamation points even.

So?

I don’t really want to live my life for marketeres. AND YET I think I’m WAY TOO OLD to be all Lloyd Dobler about my life.

Lloyd Dobler Say Anything

Lloyd Dobler is the guy with the boom box.


As a blogger, I should have been all geared up for Amazon Prime Day.

Why?

It’s supposed to be a profitable day for bloggers.

So?

If I want to make a living as a blogger, I should care and be prepared.

Why?

In order to make a living blogging, I should give attention to all affiliate opportunities that may be worth it.

So?

I don’t like encouraging people to spend money on stuff all that much. I prefer to spend my mooney on experienes and learning, on time doing things with people I care about.

Why?

Despite myself, I tend to agree with my dad and his family about money not being…I should say – material posessions and apperances don’t matter to me as much as I think they might to other bloggers. I have my vanity, like looking a certain way, etc.

So?

I think that as I continue my blog that I need to create and write what is really of interest to me. I need to limit my social media time, so that I can lay in the grass writing as I am now and reading honest to goodness books without my phone being near me, without really knowing where my phone is. I’m happy with my notebook and a book from the library, wearing sandals that clash with my red top – no pink and red combined is one of the few fashion faux pas that my mother warned me about.

Why?

With what free time I have and with what time I invest in the creative I should create and share honest content that is helpful. Creating is good. It has its place and purpose. Right now I feel gratitude for Shel Pink’s Slow Beauty, because without it, I wouldn’t be doing this right now, on a Sunday afternoon. I would not be engaging in this valuable self-symposium, thinking about what I really want and why I am happy to go back to serving.

Why?

Because what I really want is the financial freedom to lead a life of writing, creating, traveling, and working out. A life of living in blance and a VERY IMPORTANT AD my fiance being able to get away from the computers and screens, able to enjoy and live a well-balanced life of exercise, fun, travel, food, and ease.

So?

The debt snowball is important. Working as a team, making allowances for our weaknesses (me and my mochas, he and his tacos).

So the blog continues…

Focusing on helpful pieces with some self-examination sprinkled in while letting my social media usage wane without feeling guilty. It’s the best decision for me today.

What about you? Are there any tools you use when making decisions?

mmcnallan

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